How To Feel Safe After a Tragedy

With the recent tragic events in France and California I found myself feeling scared, fearful and unsafe. My initial reaction was shock and deep sadness for those that lost their lives and for their family and loved ones. Then I felt fear take over and I found myself asking “Where can I move to or go with my family so that we’ll be safe?”

If I live in fear and allow sadness to take over then I wouldn't going to the movies, travel, or going anywhere there might be a large crowd. 

Living in constant worry for my loved ones safety isn’t going to keep them safe. Instead I would be living in a self imposed prison.  I wouldn’t be living life to the fullest.

I decided not to allow the horrific actions of a few people change me or steal the joy out of life. I made a decision to overcome the fear and choose love. 

If you're struggling with fear, here are some things you can do to begin to feel safe again. 


We can choose to stay in fear and alter what we do, where we go and how we feel or we can choose to not allow them to take away our freedom or peace.  Choose to feel love, laugh and have fun.  Keep your joy!


Trust and know that everything will be okay no matter what happens. Living in fear won’t stop something bad from happening instead it makes you feel scared and miserable.

Trust that you’ll be okay and listen to your intuition. It can guide you and keep you safe.  If you’re a person of faith connect to God/Spirit/Higher Power or whatever you call it, for inner peace. That could be through prayer, meditation, a walk in the woods, or however you feel connected. 


When you catch yourself starting to worry, stop and ask "Am I safe in this moment?"  All we have for sure is this moment and when you can connect and be present, you can feel at peace. You won’t be thinking about what happened in the past or what might happen in the future.  As Buddhist Monk Thich Nhat Hanh says “Be Here Now.”  


Have fun and enjoy your life! I try to live each day as if it might be my last. I know that may sound a bit weird but I feel that death can teach us to live.

When most people are told they have a sickness and only so long to live, the first thing most of them want to do is travel, see the world and experience the things on their bucket list they haven't done yet. They want to be with their loved ones and enjoy each moment together.

What truly matters is the time we spend with people we love, creating memories and loving them with all our heart. Spend time with those you love and do the things that bring joy to your heart now.

I want to live life fully and enjoy each moment that I’m blessed to be here to tell my family how much I love them and to smile and share loving, positive energy with everyone I come across.  So I’m making the choice to live fully, love with all my heart and to feel and share joy. You can too! 

I’d love to hear from you.  What helps you shift from fear to love? Please share your comments below. 

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With Love,