My husband always tells people that he falls in love with me every day. Each time I hear him share that with someone, it makes me smile. I feel so blessed that he loves me like that.
I also know that I can make that difficult for him some days. So, I am very appreciative of that fact that he is willing to find things about me to fall in love with over and over again.
It’s so easy to focus on what isn’t working in a relationship, or the things the other person does that may cause us to feel annoyed. I believe that we get more of what we focus on. If I focus on the things that bother me, I will find more things that bother me. That’s easy. We can always look for what isn’t working in relationships and life. It makes such a difference when you start to focus on what is working.
I decided to follow the advice he shares with others and fall in love with him every day. What a difference that has made for me. I wake up each morning and thank God for having him in my life.
If something he does causes me to react or feel upset or annoyed—which I am responsible for, he doesn’t really cause it—I will notice it, stop, and think about something I love about him and am grateful for. It can be as simple as “I am so grateful for the way he loves our children and is an incredible, loving father,” or “I love how he comes up behind me and kisses my neck.” Once I am focused on what I love about him, I can better process my feelings.
Throughout the day, I will think about him and what I am grateful for and love about him. This keeps me focused on what is working in our relationship. Of course if there is an issue or something I need to talk with about or share, I still do that. The difference is that I am able to come from a loving space when I share how I’m feeling instead of an annoyed, upset place. Our communication is always better when we come from a space of love.
The most important person you can practice this with is yourself. Fall in love with yourself and your life daily. Focus on everything you have to be grateful for and you will wake up happy. You can also use this practice with friends, family members, or people you work with. Focus on what you appreciate about them. Find things to be grateful for. You will be surprised how this little shift in your thinking can change the relationship.
What are some of the things you do to stay in love? Do you love and honor yourself and the beautiful person you are? I encourage you to take time each day to do something loving for yourself. It can be as simple as enjoying a cup of tea, reading, or whatever brings you joy.
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Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye. - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Love & Happiness,