Are You Stuck Up?

When I was in high school a boy asked me if I was stuck up because I was so quiet. He said it with such disdain that I remember in that moment making a decision to let everyone know that I didn’t like myself at all.

That decision affected my life in more ways than I could have imagined as a young girl. For years I would not even accept a compliment. When someone would compliment me I would say “That’s very sweet of you but I’m not _____."

I dealt with challenges such as an eating disorder, divorce and an abusive relationship.  The core belief that led to those issues was, "I’m not loveable," which was a belief I took on as a child.

I don’t regret the experiences in my life because they all helped me to grow, learn and become the person I am today. They were all there to teach me to honor my spirit and truth. The lessons I learned through those challenges taught me to love myself.

The turning point for me was when I realized that I couldn’t be truly, authentically happy unless I loved myself. I was always looking for outside validation that I was loveable but the funny thing is I never accepted or believed it anyway.

I realized that for me the key to happiness is loving myself so I started saying the affirmation “Loving myself is the key to happiness.”  This changed my life.  I use it all the time to remind myself that it’s okay to practice self love. I can say no to things that don't resonate with me, take time to read a book, and do things that bring joy to my heart.

I’ve found that when I honor my truth and do things that feel right for me, I’m actually better able to serve others and be there for them because I’m in a loving space. When I love myself I don't do things to make sure people like me because I don't need validation of my self worth. If I’m not happy, I can’t possibly bring joy to other people. It has to start within me and then spread out to others.  I can’t give what I don’t have.

This week practice loving yourself and making choices that resonate with your spirit. Feel free to borrow my affirmation or make up one of you own. I would love to hear your affirmations. Please share your comments and affirmations below. I look forward to reading them.

Love & Happiness,

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